The Halloween season is here and I am seeing many statuses flying around my social media feeds specifically about this day. Many are sharing crafts, carved pumpkins or Halloween recipes. Others are simply sharing their views on the day. These views tend to fall into these three categories.
- People who LOOOOOVVVVVVEEEEE Halloween. Go all out decorating their houses, themselves, the cat, or anything else that stands still long enough.
- People who ‘don’t do’ Halloween, whether this be for religious reasons or not
- People, well parents, who celebrate Halloween because they have kids
This last type, fall into three categories of their own
- Parents who let their kids ‘trick or treat’
- Parents who don’t let their kids ‘trick or treat’
- Parents of very small children who don’t know which camp they will eventually join
Personally I am someone who ‘does’ Halloween mostly because we have kids, although we always had a bag of coppers or sweets at hand by the front door pre-children. We decorate a bit and enjoy carving pumpkins to put in the front window.
These are last years attempts:
My children also go knocking on doors wishing people a ‘Happy Halloween’. I have never liked the saying ‘trick or treat’ and this was my compromise. I don’t know why, it just seems much more positive to wish someone a happy day rather than threaten them with a trick, even though 99% of kids would never trick anyone!
When they were small there are a few doors in the street that welcome seeing the little ones in their costumes, this number has grown now some other neighbours have had kids/grandkids of their own. There are some elderly neighbours that we never bother.
When they are older they are allowed off the street, of course this is still pretty early being as it’s dark well before 7pm this time of year! You have to remember also that we live in a very small valley where there are family or friends on almost every street, at least half of the valley knows them and they are always in a group, never alone.
The ground rules we set in place are these:
- Never knock on houses without decorations, pumpkins or if the lights are off.
- Only ever knock once.
- Be polite, say ‘Happy Halloween’ always say thank you and goodbye, even if you didn’t get anything.
- If there are trouble makers in the street go onto the next one.
- 8.30pm is the cut off, nobody wants pestering after that.
Of course, my attitude to trick or treating might be completely different if we didn’t live in such a small, relatively safe, community with a large amount of children in the area. Maybe if we lived in a city or even a busy town, where there was a higher crime and anti social behaviour rate, my view would be completely different.
I’d love to hear your view of this debate. Do you celebrate Halloween? Do you allow your children to go trick or treating?
The kids might kill me for sharing this but as I was looking for the pumpkin picture above I came across this one from 2013 that I just had to share. The ‘come on Mami, stop taking pictures already’ smiles made me giggle. This was the first year LM was allowed off the street with her big sisters.