This evening has been very hard for me. One of my children lied. Lying is something I do not condone and I would normally punish them but there is one small twist which makes this issue even more problematic. I don’t actually know which one lied. Nor do I have any way of proving it, without the use of a stomach pump(which seems a little extreme).
Let me take you back to the beginning. We have had plenty of bugs going round our house since last week so have had at least one child off school all week. Yesterday I made apple crumble for dessert but *lets say child A*, who had been off ill, did not eat theirs. Today Child A and child B were both off. A asked to have their crumble with their lunch so they opened a tin of custard and put about a 3rd of the tin on the crumble. They then left the open tin on the table (Why I’m not sure as it should have gone in the fridge!). While O napped I went upstairs to carry on with my clothes sorting leaving both suspects, I mean children, alone watching TV.
Fast forward to this evening and I find the tin on the table, Empty.
By this point the other two were home but had barely spent any time in the living room with the custard. I knew I hadn’t eaten it and O can barely pull himself up by the couch let alone climb up to the dining table. This just left A and B as possible culprits. Of course they both deny it. I told them they wouldn’t get a row if they owned up. I even threatened to punish them both if they didn’t own up to the deed by bed time. I said that they could just come and whisper it to me and all would be forgotten. But nothing.
B, the younger one, cried. A just denied. Me I felt sad looking at their poorly faces and just wanted to cuddle them, which I did.
I really couldn’t care less about the custard, it is just custard after all and neither of them have had much of an appetite recently, I would have gladly given them both a spoon and said tuck in. But I don’t appreciate being lied to.
So now I’m at a loss of what to do next. Should I just let it lie? (no pun intended!) should I give them another chance to confess? Or should I punish them both as I threatened? Being as they have been unwell my choice of punishment was only going to be no dessert for the weekend(I haven’t told them this).
I just want to leave it, forget it never happened. But I also don’t want to let them think they can get away with lying, or stealing if you really want to push it that far.
So how about you? Have you ever caught one your children lying to you? Have you ever had an inkling that your child is lying but you can’t disprove what they say? What did you do? What would you do in my situation? Please let me know in the comments. below.
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